Thread: I'm here again for support.

Last time I was down, Pokemon suggested I go dining and shopping to feel better. I noticed I've been wanting to shop more than usual. Seems to be therapeutic. Work is so stressful and I bring that emotions home. I've been so disorganized with my home life and seems like work has taken over me. I'm so frustrated at work. When I do stand up for myself at work, I got soda poured all over my beloved Acura. Don't know who did it, but these are the kind of people I work with. I'm tired of being walked all over. I'm a fair and considerate person. Wish I can say the same about the kind of people I work with. I cried with frustration and built up anger 3 times last week at work. I'm so embarrassed but there is just nothing I can do. These people are a lost cause. They affect my work by messing with my machines and production. I'm only 6 months into my position so I'm still learning. They are older than me so I feel because that I need to respect them. That is how I am brought up. I'm not assertive as I should be, I have low low self-esteem, and I am weak. I need to change myself but don't know how. I work with old Khmer ladies who knows my parents. I'm in charge of my work zone and when they are in my zone, I am their boss. How do I tell them to move thier hands and not their mouths? Basically they need to shut up and work! I can not do my job and help them out all the time. A lot of problems is that the ladies I work with just don't want to and would not try to keep up and I'm tired. I don't get paid to thier job and mine but if I don't, they find a way to sabotage me. I work with selfish, greedy, inconsiderate, nosy, jealous, diabolical, gambling addicts whose only concern is how they would benefit. The problem seems to be that I came later and is now at a higher position and getting paid more. I'm tired of them asking me how much I take home. I have a hubby but we're on legally married and I have no kids. I get screwed on taxes and deductions. I work hard and I've earned what I got. I lift heavy stuff that is more than half my weight, I get scratches, cut, and bruises all over. I get dirty fixing and running the machines. All they have to do is catch and pack the product that comes out. I do a man's job or that's what they think. A small woman like me should not be able to do it. Guys and gals at work thinks I'm gay but that could be the way I dress also. That's another story. I'm a fashion victim. I can't wear anything that is form fitting. They would look at me and make comments. I get uncomfortable. Maybe they used to seeing me in my usual outfit. Big pants and a big t-shirt with a long sleeve underneath. Colors don't coordinate. The point is when I'm at work, it's my priority and these people are there just to get a paycheck and gossip. They just want their paycheck so they can go pay the casino's electric bill. I just want to work with people who could cooperate with me so I can have ONE nice day at work. I'm so mad!

I m so sorry Leo, I know how you feel too. it is very suck that when you work with khmer that older then you n specially knew your family too more suck. when you work alot of time they wow make alot of money even they work the same hours ask you. keep ask you how much you pay.... dont want to do there job keep ask you to help. dont care what they do just want money. to get money you have to do what they want u to do to not just come talk no work want get pay that suck I hate that type of people. When you work with khmer the same you cant tell them what to do or u do it wrong or u need to work faster or you work so slow or u need to fix this or u need to do that. if you tell them later bit they will talk about u ...... I hate them so bad I know how you feel na. I have been in that think too. up to the point I dont care whatever they said I do what I have to do. if I have to yell at them to do right I have to I dont care they mad or tell anyone at all. sometime I just want to say "hey if you dont want to work just go home. if you work stop complain about work or say i want go home. if you want go home just go no one cant stop you." for me I dont care whatever they do at work talk play whatever as long as you get your job done on time if you have free time you can do what they want.

I know machining job is very hard nas esp. for girl to do it. you are so good that you can do it. they should proud of you that you can do it not said you gay those people old dont know how to respect to people but full of BS in there mind. if me is you I dont care whatever they say at all. when they tired talk about you they will shut up hery.

I know how you exactly feel leo. im also learning how to deal with these things myself. even if they are older than you but you have a higher standard than them you need to tell them what to do no matter what they say. they should feel ashamed that someone younger than them is telling them what to do and that your not lazy like them. should say in front of their face. also if they have problems with it. tell your boss. stop letting them get to you. i think your problem is that you let things get to you. stop worrying about what they say about you as long as you know your not like them. i have the same position like you do, im in the military and im known as a squad leader so i have to tell my marines what to do and not to do, yeah they will talk back and talk about you. but they really cant say anything b/c your not lazy and your can report to someone higher than you to fix the problem. hope this helps. just remember that you can accomplish anything if you set your mind to it. don't ever give up. sometimes you have to talk to them like their not older than you, just approach them in a nice way. like hey sorry oum or ming, with all do respect you can't get your work accomplish if you keep talking and not working.

Sorry to hear that, Leo. That sounds almost the same with my gf's mom. There are group of people that they all know each other. and mom who works after after a few years and now she's in charge of the group. She does get earn more a little, but those people don't get the work done. They try to get rid her, but she does all the left over work. It's because of their jealousieee.

I will try to keep in mind that I'm not there to please anyone but do my job, but like I said they can screw me by throwing out good stuff and I'm accountable for the waste because it's my machines. It will look like I did not fix anything. I would work 12 hours with no break at all. You think they would have some compassion. I would work all day with nothing to eat. I get so busy there is no time. It also depends whose the operator prior to me. If they are a lazy one, my day will be screwed because I would have to fix all the things they did not. That's another thing, the Asian guy operators treat me poorly too. The Mexican and American don't. They would leave me to clean up after them. In their country that's how they treat their women. I don't have time even to drink water, but I guess from now on I will have to make time to document everything these ladies throw out that is good for packing. They can't keep up so they throw them out. I'm gonna try to do what I can to cover my own butt. By the way, thanks for all the support. You guys are the best. Good to know somebody understands.

It sucks to work with those kind of people. I agree with what Sophath said, u need to have a talk with them as u are the coworker not they are older or know ur parents. Work and personally should be seperated. U do a good job, keep doing it. Don't give up! A better thing is always for a better person Take some time relax k. Take care!

the Asian guy operators treat me poorly too. The Mexican and American don't.

Yes!!! That's how I DO NOT want to work at the place where there's a lot of Asian. Not of them, but there's always problem at work if you are around with Asian and you are high than them.

I agree with what Sophath said, u need to have a talk with them as u are the coworker not they are older or know ur parents.

I agree, too.
Good luck, I hope everything going well with you in this new year

hey leo i was thinking maybe you should find another place to work b/c my mom use to be in the same precedement as you were but she quit and found another job and she's getting paid more and less stressfull. try to go out and find other better jobs. dont worry i have faith in you. u can do it.